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Top 10 Things I Love to Hear from Intellectually Honest, Humble Christians

by Carson T. Clark on April 29, 2013

*Adapted from a Facebook status update on 4-10-2013.

10. I meant well, but I’ve been wrong about that.

9. I’d like to offer a little good-natured push-back.

8. While I still disagree, I have a better sense of where you’re coming from.

7. I let my experiences and emotions get in the way of the facts. My bad.

6. Wasn’t aware of that (fact, logical fallacy, etc.) before. Thanks.

5. Huh. Hadn’t thought of that before. I’ll have to consider it.

4. I stand by the content of what I said, but the tone wasn’t gracious. Sorry.

3. I’m confused but don’t want to assume. Can you please clarify what you mean?

2. Yeah, my perspective probably could use a little more nuance.

1. I’ve been thinking about what you said…

  • Cranky

    Thank you for articulating this very helpful list of potential responses. I dare say that Christians are only one of a great many cultural categories that might benefit from diminishing the vitriol by employing a bit less high-pitched certainty.

    • carsontclark


  • Maureen Kennedy

    Be careful with number four. It depends on the tone and attitude of the person saying that phrase. Oftentimes, it’s used to “apologize” for something without really apologizing for it at all. Basically saying, “I still think I’m in the right, but I’m sorry if YOU were offended by me.” It’s still passing the blame on the other person. If, however, your tone truly wasn’t gracious and the phrase is sincerely meant, then yes, it is a helpful phrase.

    • carsontclark

      I’m presuming sincerity and genuine humility.

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