I Don’t Believe God Has a Cookie Cutter Expectation for All Women
Damned if you do. Damned if you don’t.
That’s the way most discussions of gender roles tend to go among American Christians these days.
If you merely say you respect and value women in the workforce, the complementarian mob gets up in arms. You get denounced as denigrating and offending stay-at-home moms, not because of what you actually said but because of what you “clearly” meant.11.The complementarians are now psychic. To quote Scar, “Ohhhh goooodie.”
Meanwhile, if you even say you respect and value stay-at-home moms, the egalitarian mob gets up in arms. This time you get denounced for denigrating and offending women in the workforce, not because of what you actually said but because of what you “clearly” meant.22.*facepalm* Great. More psychic powers.
Nearly everyone seems to be perpetually on edge, just waiting for some comment that’s poorly worded, naively general, or nuanced but still inadequately so in order to pounce. Whatever your perspective, it’s an uphill battle to be certain.33.It’s not a condusive environment for civil discourse, which I think it why a lot of people avoid it like the plague.
Nevertheless, here I’ll brave the two mobs to share my view.
I don’t believe God has a cookie cutter expectation for all women. On the contrary, my belief is that the highest calling of each and every woman is to live into precisely who God has made and called them to be.
For some that’s a wife and a stay-at-home mom. I have nothing but admiration.
For others that’s a single teacher. Equal admiration.
For still others that’s a (marital status?) musician…44.…lawyer, nurse, bus driver, scientist, pastor, banker, interior designer, administrative assistant, pilot, gardener, store manager, soldier, architect, chef, professor, counselor, police officer, accountant, waitress, librarian, technician, athlete, conductor, physical therapist, veterinarian, politician, author, corporate exec, translator, painter, doctor, mechanic, nun, salesperson, etc. Equal admiration for all.
For me it’s simply not an issue of compensation or authority. Those aren’t things that are naturally on my radar. I suppose that’s why I’ve never felt a moment’s worth of discomfort having a female boss and never will feel discomfort if/when my wife makes a greater salary.
No, I just don’t have those sorts of gender-related qualms.
In my eyes it’s a relatively simple matter of being faithful to God and being a faithful presence in one’s sphere of influence wherever the Lord has led.