Miniblog #257: Why Don’t More College Students Seek Out Mentors?
Yesterday morning Baylor’s Spiritual Life hosted a conversation for grad students about the stages of young adult faith. I enjoyed it. Perhaps the number one thing that stuck out to me was the observation that most students today–and this is apparently true of undergrad and grad students alike–fully expect college to be a period in which they figure out who they are, wrestle through what they believe, etc. Yet hardly any of ‘em ever find mentors to help walk them through that journey. While that aligns with what I’ve observed, I find it genuinely baffling. My whole life I’ve sought out mentors who could help show me the way forward, and none more than during my college years. No one ever volunteered to be my mentor nor was there ever a formal arrangement. I just walked into the office of professors, staff, or administrators and started chatting. If we hit it off and they seemed to enjoy the conversation, I returned. If I found them irritating and less than insightful, I didn’t. It was really as simple as that. Far from it being a burden, each of my nine close college mentors has repeatedly expressed thanks for my reaching out to them. So, I don’t understand why more students don’t do that. I say this not as a criticism, of course. I’m merely trying to get my mind around it. Why do I have that natural impulse to seek out counsel whereas most do not?